On this page, we will give you some information about how to get him to commit.
Helping Your Man Decide That He Wants to Take the Relationship to the Next Level
Maybe you are in a casual relationship where you are dating a man, but you are not exclusive with each other. Perhaps you have been dating exclusively, but you are waiting for him to propose.
Of course, you cannot force a man to do something he does not want to do, but there are some strategies you can use that will help him decide that he is ready to move forward in the relationship.
Tell Him How You Feel
Men are not mind readers, and it is extremely crucial that you communicate with him and tell him how you are feeling.
If you are casually dating and you would like to be exclusive, tell him that. If you are in a committed, monogamous relationship, but you see a future with the man and you would like him to propose, you can bring up the subject and talk about it. I’m not saying that you have to propose to him, and I am certainly not suggesting that you lay down the law and issue an ultimatum. What I am suggesting is that you talk about the possibility of marriage. Discuss your future together and see how he reacts. Bringing up the subject and talking about it will help you figure out if marriage is something that he wants.
The Importance of Communication
Communication is extremely valuable in any relationship, and it is especially crucial if you are hoping to get your man to commit.
You should have good communication from the very beginning of your relationship so that you will know if you and your man have similar goals, or if you are on different paths that will ultimately lead to the end of your relationship.
As an example, some women dream about their wedding day from the time they are little girls. If a woman like this ends up with a man who has no intention of getting married, it is hard to imagine the relationship working out. A woman who wants to get married might end up falling in love with a wonderful man, but this incredible man has no intention of ever getting married. Perhaps his parents had a terrible marriage that ended in divorce, and he would be happy dating forever and never getting married.
Having good communication from the beginning of the relationship will help you learn these types of things sooner rather than later. If you have been dreaming of your wedding day your entire life, you may not want to fall in love with a man, and be in a relationship for a number of years before you learn that he has no intention of ever getting married.
Helping a Man Overcome His Fear of Commitment
Not all men are crippled by an irrational fear of commitment, but a lot of men do have some anxiety when it comes to commitment and this may cause them to prevent the relationship from progressing.
If a man is comfortable with the way things currently are, it may take a gentle push to get him out of his comfort zone.
Again, communication is one way to give him that gentle nudge.
For most men that have a fear of commitment that fear stems from the thought that he might lose his freedom. Some men also feel like they may lose their sense of self and lose their own identity if they become involved in a serious, committed relationship. Some men are afraid that when they are in a relationship they will be seen as “part of a couple” rather than an individual. Alot of men also believe they will lose their freedom because they think a committed relationship means that they will have to spend all of their available free time with their significant other, and they will not be able to continue doing all of the things they currently enjoy.
To help your man overcome his fear of relationships and get him to commit, you can demonstrate to him that he will not lose his freedom. If he has certain hobbies, encourage him to participate in those hobbies. If he likes to go out with his friends, encourage him to do so, and let him know that he can do the things he likes to do without feeling guilty.
In a committed relationship, the two of you will share a life together, but a man also wants to be an individual and have his freedom. If you can let him have his freedom, and you do not need to tag along when he goes out with his friends, and you do not give him a hard time when he gets back, his fear of commitment will disappear because there will be nothing to be afraid of.
Support and Believe in Him and He Will Want to Commit
Men want to be respected and admired.
They want to be with someone who believes in them and supports them. By supporting a man, I do not mean that you are going to be his sugar mama and pay all the bills while he goes surfing all day. I mean support the decisions that he makes. If he is happy in his career path, be supportive of that and do not try to change it. If he has a particular hobby, even if it is something you are not interested in, support him in that. If you can be supportive of your man rather than trying to change him, he will love you for it, and he will want to commit.
Hopefully the information on this page has helped give you a little bit of insight into the way men think. It is impossible to cover every possible scenario on one page, but there are certainly some strategies you can employ that will help get your man to decide that it is time to make a commitment and take your relationship to the next level.
Believe in him and be supportive, learn to communicate effectively, and help remove any fears of commitment that he might have, and he will decide that he wants to commit.
The end, thank you for reading my article about how to get him to commit!